Proxemics and attraction

Proxemics

The systematic study of rules for how we use space between us

Personal space

Invisible spatial envelope

Area surrounding body that is regarded as private and subject to personal control

“I” or “Me” beyond the boundaries of our skin.

Test it?

People Step back or turn away

Spatial Norms

Defined by culture

In North America. . .

1. Intimate Distance (the most private space)

18 inches
2. Personal Distance (close friends)

18 inches – 4 ft

3. Social Distance (impersonal interaction)

4 ft – 12 ft

4. Public Distance (formal interactions)

12 ft or more

Interpersonal attraction

How are we attracted to friends and lovers?

-Proximity

“The mere exposure effect”

-We like things we are

familiar with
-Physical attractiveness

-Competence

-Similarity
-Self disclosure
Gendered Friendships

Male friendships are more often activity based

Female friendships are more often based on shared feelings and confidences